Loved and Lost................
Aasama ke tare aksar puchte hai humse ....
"Kya tumhe aj bhi intezaar hai uske laut aane ka"
Aur yeh dil muskurake kehta hai
"Mujhe to ab tak yakin na hua uske chale jane ka"
Too sentimental a shayari.. but it has expressed so much about a person who has loved and lost…. Would definitely like to thank the person who send me this, she is my most intimate friend and has always been there for me through all thick and thin of my life….Wondering why am I talking about being in love and then losing it, hmm interesting thing to talk about…….
Have always witnessed people getting united in love except for some stupid kundali or caste thing creeping in between, so never ever felt a need to give a thought to the other side of the coin. Almost all of my friends did a love marriage at least people close to me. So never ever thought what would be the scenario wherein people never get united………
My previous post was about love marriages not happening because of some weird reasons like caste and kundali. Herein the reason for love couples not uniting has its origin there, but then it’s the couples’s wish of separating out for their parent’s wish. Doesn’t that sound weird, but if you happen to experience something like this in your life you will definitely appreciate my thought out here….
Have you ever wondered why sometimes parents don’t agree to the wish of their children of doing a love marriage, the reason may be they might have had a very successful arranged marriage or may be they can’t digest the fact that their son/daughter are mature enough to select a partner for themselves….. Lekin you know what the cases I have seen have been too good to set up as a model for anyone. The couples involved simply came upon the mutual decision of separating out for their parents’ sake…..
Maybe the aftermath of this may be favorable and a source of happiness for the parents, but painful for the couples involved… But then again you have to always respect your parent’s coz they have always been with you throughout your life, better through every phase of your life……..
So in case if you fall for someone I guess you should definitely approach your parents first before taking a decision of your own, coz I guess they deserve the first right to know about your life……. Eloping and getting married is just another way of showing off cowardice. You elope to get married coz you can’t face the situation.. But if you stand by the situation I guess you can be the best inspirational models society can have… Though you may not get united with the love of your life but you will always have the satisfaction of having made your parents happy with a sacrifice from your side….. Donno how many will support this statement of mine but I fully agree with the same…. I guess the best solution then would be think twice before you fall in love :DD
Also would like to share these beautiful lyrics (bin tere kya hai jeena – woh lamhe) for all those have loved and lost. These lyrics truly are for such couples to survive the rest of their life in spite of the fact that they may be someone’s else’s partner in future……..
Bin tere kya hai jeena
Bin tere tya hai jeena
Meri dil ki rani tum
Meri kushiyon ka mausam
Mere Khwaabon ke tabeer
Mere sapno ki tasveeer
bin tere kaisi yaaar
woh jeet ho ya haar
tere sang ke hai sab kuch..
tu naa ho to bekaar...
bin tere kya hai jeena..
Bin tere kya hai jeena..
Suni khali raatein
Rookhi feeki baatein
Har ahat per chowkun
tujhko harsuu dekhon
tujhko har dum sochon
tujhko har pal chaahon
Tere bin to jeevan mera hai intezaaar.
bin tere kya hai jeena
bin tere kya hai jeena
Tere saath jeeeye jo pal
kuch unse nahi badh kar
Tere khatir saaans main loo
Tere khaatir jeeta hoon
Marne ki tammna bhi mein
Tere saaath main rakhta hoon
Tu hai jeene ke wajhe hai
Tu kar mera aitbaar.
Bin tere kya hai jeena
Bin tere kya hai jeenaa
Bin tere kya hai jeeenaaa
Bin tere kya hai jeenaa
Isn’t it true…………………. By now you might have figured out the basic essence of the shayari….This shaayari is soley dedicated for those who have taken the mutual decision of separating out for their parent’s wishes and still have the beloved somewhere in their heart……….
posted by Athena at 6:40 PM
17 Comments:
Hmmm....
parents should also think twice before they decide :)
whatever, thats gonna pain you for rest of your life if you deicde to part your ways from someone you hold close to your heart. and if someone is in such a situation, his/her parents didn't think twice for sure.
sequel chal raha hai kya?
next post about lovers who were not able to tell about their feelings to the person whom they love :P.
woh lamhe ka after effect to nahi hai na? and i wont ask this silly question ki "kahi love bug ne tumko to nahi kata"
i also think pyar karne se pehle sochna chahiye... think if u can think.
interesting .. really interesting
@seige.. thnx :)
@chandu.. every person has his/her own perspective abt thngs. I guess parents don't think the same way as their children..
haan ye toh hai ki parents ko bhi sochna chahiye, joki majority of such cases main woh karrte nahi... and the pain of separation for the couples involved is for a lifetime, but they can atleast be happy tht they could manage to get a smile on their parents face....
@voice.. waise tumhe hamesha mujhpar hi shaqq kyon hota hai :DDDDDDDDDDDDDD
mujhe toh ab dbt ho raha hai ki kahin tumhe bhi is bug ne toh nahi pester kiya hua hai ;):P
definitely u shud think ample time b4 falling in love i guess if this is the scenario!!!
@samay.. thnx :)
*i m immune to this bug..
*mujhe tum par koi shaq nahi hai... but post hi aise kar rahi ho tum
@voice.. *mujhe tum par koi shaq nahi hai... but post hi aise kar rahi ho tum
hailaa i thought my posts are always transient of my current scenario :DD lagta hai the horses of ur imagination runs pretty fast :D unhain lagamlagao :PPP
'Loved and Lost...'
probably a difficult situation to face and comment unless you have really lost someone...But sure, the thought itself gives a shiver while thinking of loosing your loved ones - be it your spouse or parents or siblings..
vini, good write up..
but the best solution as u suggest as .."think twice before you fall in love" is not practical...
That has been the case with some of biggest love stories in the world. From heer-ranjha, romeo-juliet any great love affair you take, they couldn't unite. May be all those who couldn't unite are the re-births of these great lovers, so be happy that these lovers will again meet in all of their births because they are destined to meet!
Seems your doing a research on love, too much of love in your blogs ;) Wanted to know why your face is devoid of that charming smile are you in some tension lately? During lunch also you were not in your usual self and why offline these days on communicator? You were looking cute today must admit blue suits you.
Atleast good to see you back to blogging. Bring back that mesmerizing smile and vitality on our floor and be back on communicator also.
secret admirer (hope that strikes something)
@Anon: Yeah, tht smile is somethng tht I m missing too !!
I dunno why ppl change totally after they fell in love, particularly girls.
I m sure, it would always be an artificial smile tht she wears now... not the one we are used to !!
Anyways, cheer up lady... blogging is not d solution of ur probs :)
For all loved and lost pals, Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened !!
blog ki post :O:D
Good posting... Was really feeling like I have lived through these things...
I am sure that you are a good mind reader ;-)
Keep it up Vinitha :-)
Hi Vini
There are some who flirt on the fringes of infatuation, some who test several prototypes in the hope of finding the right one, some rafting upstream-braving the rapids of opposition, some endlessly scaling the indomitable peak of true love, and some precariously hanging on to a mossy protrusion on the same mesmerizing peak...it nice to know that theres a wealth of quality thought out there when it comes to romance and Vini youve done a marvellous job..will keep visitng this blog..its definitely one level above!!
hmmmm.....condition wise many things depend
but yes parents ve right so its better to do acc to thr wish:)
ooopsss.....late ho gaya comment karne mein:p
i dont think parents need to force the fate on their childern. among Parents duty, i will inlcude the folowin lines too too.
-> bring up the child, make him thinking, mature him to be indepndent. grow his individuality.
that means, his child is grown up now. Once he is grown up, its he/or she who has to decide his futr; he can get sugestion ( not decision or fate from parents. ultimatly it shud be the grwn up child who shud take the decision of his life.
but only thing i shud add; our decision shud be driven by brain; not by heart - jus my stand. ( i dint read fully.. jus few lines .. remaing lines extrpoalted. hehe Woh lamhe!; i think i ve seen that muvi..
.......mutual decision of separating out for their parent’s wishes and still have the beloved somewhere in their heart……
good to see someone gave a thought for someone like me...u know,this is the toughest decision one can take...it's the hardest path to walk...it really take lots of courage & maturity...
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