Marriages are made in Heaven.... or earth!!!!

     The title itself is sarcastic in itself.... Surprised!!! When you have read my post probably you may also be the one to support the first stmt in my post.....

     This thought and corresponding post on the same notion came to me coz of some very weird situations and things that have been happening around me. It was, is and will always be a true belief that love can happen anywhere and anytime. Being in love is an altogether different and beautiful experience within itself.... As ppl say, once in love, its as if you are the only creatures in this world. Ohh why am I going on and on with this love stuff… isn’t my post supposed to be talking about the end of a love life – so called most awaited marriage stuff. Think twice is that the end of all love relations!!!! I happened to witness two such scenarios, though there may be many more, which adds to the fact the marriages are not anymore an heaven affair but fully and solely owned by ppl on earth :DD

Scenario 1 :

     Lately some of friends had the pleasure of being in love with the person of their choice. Finding the sheer glow of happiness in their life getting reflected on their face made me all the more happier. But lately these lines of happiness are fading and am sure the days are not far when it will be replaced fully by sadness:(((( The reason a beautiful love life ended harshly and reason pretty insane – kundali/horoscope didn’t match.

     Being a part of the Indian society is a curse sometimes when it comes to marriages especially a luv marriage. Many a times arranged marriages also go this traumatic process of so called kundalli/horoscope matching stuff. I have always been against such kundalli stuff, but can’t help if am also forced to undergo all these procedures under some social pressure :DDD In arranged marriage I thnk it doesn’t matter much coz u don’t have particular attachment to the guy/gal you meet. But in case of luv marriages its like an end for the couples involved if they are not allowed to marry just coz the kundalli/horoscope thing didn’t work out.

     Isn’t this an insane thing still pretty much supported by the Indian society? Hasn’t it been the case that arranged marriages also end up in divorce even after the kundalli/horoscope matching stuff….I think u come to love a person based on the compatibility level u share with him/her. It is possible that a friend may become a lover in the long run, the reason is pretty simple their frequencies match and they care for each other. They can understand each other and a slight change in your body lang. is easily understood by ur partner when ur in love!! So does kundalli really have the power to decide whether two ppl who love each intimately can live together happily….

Scenario 2 :

     A few days back my second cousin called up out of the blue to share a beautiful moment in his life – “Didi I m in love”. The first words I that came out of my mouth was “Congr8s dear”. The consequent stmts btwn us was common. “What’s her name, where is she from, what is she doing..” Mind it never once I asked which caste she belonged to, probably coz that doesn’t matter much to me!! But when I came to she is a Christian I was a bit unhappy, brooding over the fact that will this relation be accepted by our family as I did…

     The answer is a big “NO”. Here the reason is slightly more insane and different. Being from a higher “Nair” caste, getting married to a caste lower than ours is considered as a big crime in kerala. And in my cousin’s case its like a gr8 bhuchal kinda stuff thts gonna happen… Its not the case with our caste.. I think almost all of the castes in India are pretty much orthodox, when it comes to inter-caste marriages....

Will this end??

     When we were born, when we went to school sat with fellow students or when we made friends…. did we ever bother about these caste or kundalli stuff. Did we ever bother to compare our kundalli’s with our friends to find out how compatible we are, then why these irrelevant horoscopes or castes gain importance when it comes to marriage or unison of two lovers…Never got an answer to all my above questions….But one thing I have accepted is :

“All Love doesn’t end in Marriage”

     Now my consistent nightmare is if this is the scenario, then to get a bakra for myself I will definitely have to go through all these tedious and horrible procedures.. Agar yahi procedure zindagi bhar chalta raha toh lagta nahi is janam main koi bakra fasega :DDDD